Oct 162011

we did a bit of errand running today…well, not really too much… we got a very late start to our day.. slept it til 10 AM! wow! then we drank coffee and sat around in our jammies til about 3… i think coach had a nap in there somewhere too…

we hadn’t eaten all day.. the coffee was working it’s magic so our first stop was denny’s… one of our favorite spots on a sunday… coach can eat his breakfast and i can order just about anything else… i’m allergic to eggs so breakfast out is pretty limiting for me… unless i order al la carte and that gets quite expensive…

once we were sufficiently stuffed we headed to the store for some groceries… uneventful…

but we got to looking around us and talking about what we were seeing…

the number of homeless people has increased so dramatically recently. and the people we were seeing didn’t appear to have been on the streets for too long at all… cleaner than some of the others, still had hair that was fairly groomed… clothes that were cleaner than the others…

i don’t understand … i mean, i understand how a person can become homeless in this time… lose your job, can’t pay the bills, lose possessions, car, house, and on and on… and ultimately homeless…

what i don’t understand is that where are the friends and families of the thousands of homeless people on the streets in this city? why have they not stepped in and offered shelter? why are they letting their friends and family members live under bridges and such? i don’t understand. i just don’t.

am i one of the few lucky ones that knows i have family and friends that would NEVER allow me to be homeless? no matter how i came to be homeless…. i know that my family would take me in… and i know i have friends who would do the same… naturally, it would be expected that i work or do something to help myself, but all the same, they would not allow me to live under the bridge…

so very sad….

Being an adult is like looking both ways before you cross the street and then getting hit by an airplane.

  7 Responses to “i just don’t understand”

  1. I’m a little hesitant to jump into this discussion, but here goes anyway. I worked for 32 years in the health and human services area where we provided funding to our local homeless shelters. I saw the homelessness of the late 70s and early 80s. Since I live down on the coast where winters are very mild, we always have a disproportionately large homeless population. After a few years, I became hard-hearted about a lot of homelessness. Sometimes I thought they were homeless by choice, that it was a lifestyle choice. And, sometimes it is, but not usually. The families with kids are particularly heartbreaking. Often by the time a person or family becomes homeless, they have pretty much “used up” their relatives. The truth is that most of us are only about two paydays from being homeless ourselves. The former director of one of our local shelters, used to tell people “If you have to choose between paying your mortgage (rent) and buying groceries, pay the rent. Homelessness is one of the hardest things to overcome. If you lose your home, you have no address, you can’t look for a job without an address. You can always eat at a soup kitchen or a food pantry will give you groceries. You are not likely to starve to death.”

    Having said that, I do have SOME family members whom I would not invite to live in my home, even if it meant they would be on the streets. I would take in their kids, but not them. I guess I’m still hard-hearted.

  2. I contemplate also. Reasoning brings many excuses as to why I suppose some are unwilling or unable to ask but? I always end back at how can a family be homeless and have not one person to offer/provide at least shelter.

  3. “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
    Luke 6:31

    my mama use to say, “the wheel always turns back to the beginning”.

    you and I have said, “karmas a b*#ch!”

    I remind myself, “Therefore by the grace of God go I.”

    Good enough reasons for me to lend a hand 🙂

  4. Nope, I don’t get it. My doors are open to family and friends should they find themselves in such a predicament.

    I volunteered at a homeless shelter once, and a large number of the population there said, they were ashamed and didn’t want to burden their families. Many of them had been estranged from family for years, and felt they couldn’t ask for help.

  5. Funny you should bring up this topic tonight. I have a relative who may be about to lose his house as of the middle of November, and came over to ask if they could come to live with us if it came to that. Without missing a beat, DH and I said of course, but you might not be very comfortable upstairs (It’s a finished attic with sloped ceiling and two twin beds.) But it is better than sleeping in your car in the Winter. If they want to stay there, we can make it work. That’s what family is for.

  6. I’m with you, how can families turn their back on someone? I don’t understand either. But then I don’t understand how people can call a woman who falls accidentally pregnant a slut, call a woman who has an abortion a murderer and think it’s acceptable to murder a person in the name of justice.

    I’m in the dark on a lot of things.

  7. Scary isn’t it. It seems that some families believe that the circumstances which lead to homelessness are contagious, so they bar their doors and ignore the phone. Heartbreaking stuff.

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